It’s something that’s taken me almost two years to learn, and I still don’t have it together, but once I realized taking time to show myself love would actually multiply my love for my family everything changed. When I neglect taking the time to take care of myself, I’m only depleting any and all of the emotional, physical, and spiritual resources needed to love my family fully. I feel like my understanding of being a “good” mother was pouring so much out of yourself to those you love. And, while I still do believe that, I was missing the second part: re-charging myself. I found myself frustrated and harboring misplaced resentment. I wasn’t asking for help or scheduling time out for myself. And, that was my problem.
After doing some serious introspection, I was desperate to find things that would re-charge my spirit and love of motherhood. Here are a few things that have absolutely made a difference for me and the way I balance loving myself with my family:
CREATING A SCHEDULE – So simple, yet so difficult for me to grasp. I’ve always prided myself for being “laid-back” but that didn’t mean I had to throw all structure out the window. I truly craved structure. Once I created a loose schedule for me and the girls, I felt a sense of comfort, calmness and security knowing that (for the most part) I knew how our day was going to look and what I could actually accomplish.
PUMPING EVERY MORNING – Something that I never did with Isla, and something that I regret. In the mornings, before the girls turn absolutely wild. I take a minute to add one bag to my liquid gold stash. I gives me a sense of peace that if I want/need to go anywhere, I CAN. And that alone is such a huge stress reliever.
A CUP OF COFFEE OR TEA OR WINE – I hate to say it but there is something about that morning cup of coffee/tea and that evening glass of wine that makes my world go round and gives me that little extra boost to function sanely in my day.
A LITTLE ME TIME HERE AND THERE – Target run to buy a couple things we honestly don’t need. Enough said. A hidden king-sized dark chocolate bar from my latest 7-11 run. Enough said. A photoshoot on a weekend with somebody else’s kids. Spending extra time in the bathroom. Yep, that’s me hiding, not my husband.
What are some of the ways you show yourself some love? I’d love to hear it!
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